Most people think that divorce will have a negative impact on children. Many children do experience short-term negative effects such as anger, anxiety, shock and disbelief. However, recent research suggests that only a relatively small percentage of children experience serious problems, either as children or adults.
The best predictor of children’s post-divorce adjustment is the amount of ongoing conflict between parents. Parents who have contentious relationships are more likely to cause adjustment problems in their children. The take home message for divorcing parents is to pay attention to how you talk about and to your ex-spouse.